Ahh, January. The month we get all fired up about everything we're going to do in the coming year. We hope, we dream, we make lists, we sketch ideas on napkins. We resolve, we commit, we join. We talk, we boast, we share on Facebook.
And then we actually DO very little.
"Not this year," we tell ourselves, "THIS year will be the year I reach my goals, keep my resolutions, and lose that last 20 lbs."
Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha! Sorry, did I write that out loud?
If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result, well, then January should be called National Insanity Month. I think I'll write Obama to see if he'll make it official.
If you've got a list of resolutions, goals, or to-dos for the coming year, that's ok. In fact, it's good. Having those things is way better than not having those things. But they are only 1/3 of the "secret formula" for succeeding.
One of the missing ingredients for many people is a plan. We set goals, but we fail to create the plan that will transport us from point A to point B. This is the "how" part. If you want to double your salary this year, how are you going to do that? What steps will you take to earn or produce more income? Once you identify those steps, ta-da! You've got a plan. You don't need a master's degree in strategic planning to create a plan to reach your personal goals. All you need is an hour and a piece of paper. Or that really cool iPad you got for Christmas.
The third, and most supremely powerful ingredient, is missed by almost everyone. Many people set goals, many people make solid, achievable plans, and very few people achieve even a fraction of what they set out to do each year. So what's missing?
Once you've got your goals and your plans, you've got to really dig and discover what you need to BE to make those things happen.
Running a full marathon (as opposed to one of those wimpy half-marathons) is one of the easiest goals to set and plan. In fact, you can go online and download a training plan from a thousand different websites right now. So aside from juggling your schedule a bit to fit the training in -- oh, and the actual running part -- running a full marathon should be one of the easiest goals to achieve. But it's not, is it?
Running a marathon requires you to do more than set the goal and plan for the goal. It requires you to BE things you've never been before.
Running a marathon requires you to BE:
- Committed. As in, committed to training above almost everything else in your personal life, including social activities, television, and even family time.
- Healthy. As in, healthier than you've ever been. That means eating better and getting more sleep.
- Focused. As in, don't even think about achieving a whole lot else while you're in marathon mode.
- Crazy. As in, you don't care what your out of shape friends think about your loony plans to conquer 26.2 miles of asphalt.
There are probably other things you need to BE to run a marathon, but you get the point. Can you see how critical this component of BEING is?
You will never achieve your goals unless you also discover and become what you need to BE to reach those goals. By the way, this works for teams and organizations as well as individuals. For a team to reach a goal, it also must figure out the state of being required to propel iself toward the finish line.
Now, dig your goals out and give some serious thought to what you will need to BE to make this year an amazing year for you, your team, or your entire organization. Work on you and what you need to BE first, and I promise you, the rest will come so much easier and faster that it might just freak you out a bit.
I will warn you, though, that committing to a new way of being will mean you have to let go of all the excuses that you created by your old way of being. That's easier said than done because those old excuses are sooooooo comfortable. For a good dose of inspiration, watch this Nike commercial featuring someone who figured out how to BE what he needed to be to reach his goals. By doing so, he also became a legend.
Let's create a legendary year together.
This year, I really want you to be a part of the conversation. Leave a comment and share one of your goals and what you need to BE to reach that goal. Your words might just inspire someone else!
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
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Great analogy, Mark, for Being...thanks for the great start! Happy New Year to you & Sparkspace.
ReplyDeleteHere's an appropriate quote I ran across today:
ReplyDelete"Do you wish to be great? Then begin by being...The higher your structure is to be, the deeper must be its foundation."
- St. Augustine
Thanks, Richard. Love timeless advice like that!
ReplyDeleteThis blog was very inspirational. I will BE the Executive Director that leads my nonprofit organization to be an industry example and true success.
ReplyDeleteGo, Sonja, Go!
ReplyDeletePart of the reason we fail at our resolutions is that we set high goals, but don't plan the small steps to get there. The art of BEcoming is taking those small steps.
ReplyDeleteTwo books that I've been recommending a LOT lately -
"Switch - How to Change Things When Change is Hard," by Chip Heath and Dan Heath (check out their website www.switchthebook.com to get an overview of this very practical book)
"One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way," by Robert Maurer ('cause thinking big can make you fail! - http://www.scienceofexcellence.com/one-small-step-can-change-your-life-book.php )
Love that word: BEcoming! Thanks for the book recommendations. Switch is a great book. Will definitely check out the other one as well.
ReplyDeleteMark
ReplyDeleteGreat post and great timing for me as I spent the day earlier this week doing goal-setting and action planning with a small group of fellow business owners. So as I stare at these goals and action plans and ask myself who do I need to BE to achieve them, I'd say the word is present. I need to be ultra PRESENT with each activity and conversation. Best wishes!
Diahn, that is such a powerful insight. And definitely easy to forget or slip out of. I often find myself fighting to get back to present, even in a single conversation sometimes! Do you ever feel that way? Any tips on how to get and stay present?
ReplyDeleteThe only New Year's resolution I ever kept was the last one I made - to never make another New Year's resolution again.
ReplyDeleteAs for what I want to be this year, that's easy. I want to be employed full time. My position was eliminated at the end of last year and I've spent the past three months looking for a new job. I am teaching a class at Ohio Dominican but I really want to get back into a permanent position. To that end I have a plan and now I'm working it. I've had a look of good interviews and made a lot of new contacts so I'm confident I will be employed full time soon.
By the way, if your looking for an experienced communicator - media and public relations, organizational communications and social media - check out my LinkedIn profile - Andrew Marcelain
Ya know, Andrew, a lot of people won't allow self-promotion on their blog. But I 'aint a lot of people. Good luck to you, my friend!
ReplyDeleteI am going to be me. I set a goal last year (and successfully completed it) of completing a daily photography project. This has given me knowledge, helped me discover my artistic point of view and given me the confidence to make a huge leap in my business.
ReplyDeleteI am ready embrace being me and am working with a very talented marketing professional to get organized and breath life into my vision.
Thank you for always writing such encouraging and honest posts.
Terri,
ReplyDeleteThanks for the kind words! You've hit on the true secret to being amazingly successful, I believe. When we finally get to the point where we can just authentically be who we really are & put our true gifts and passions to use, that's when things really take off for us.
I wish you the absolute best in your photography & everything else.